Working mothers have a different story to tell.
Mothers have always been considered the caregivers of babies. With better education, opportunities have opened up for women and many are seen breaking free from the shackles and embracing new challenges.
Not only are these women breaking years of stereotypes and false beliefs, they are setting an example for other women out there and for the generation to come that skill and hard work do not favor gender.
We at ETimes spoke to Priya Sathya, an entrepreneur and winner of the 2021 Mrs India Universe beauty pageant, on how she approaches parenthood and what she thinks parents of today’s generation should focus on:
ETimes: Does parenting include giving up your dream?
priya: Parenting requires a lot of commitment and dedication to raising responsible people, but in my opinion it in no way means sacrificing our dreams. I am a successful entrepreneur who sends students abroad to study and has a fairly irregular work schedule that involves a lot of international travel. Most of the time we travel together as I firmly believe that travel is the best teacher and my nine year old daughter understands my priorities and is fully supportive.
I think getting the kids involved is key. Keeping them in discussions, treating them as friends, and talking to them about dreams makes things easier for parents. They understand better than adults.
ETimes: How do you balance your ambition with helping your children achieve their dream?
priya: Although not an easy task, I prioritize my daily activities which consist of taking care of their needs (meal, school – includes many activities to take care of our busy work schedule as well as time for a “me time” to find “ As a mother, I made sure to shower my little one with the utmost love, I never make her feel like her interests are encroaching on my schedule (which many of us may inadvertently flaunt).
ETimes: What are the three essential things that you think every parent should teach their child?
priya: “Empathy” is a big theme that not only helps us achieve our dreams but also helps us raise global citizens who understand another person’s point of view. “Self-reliance, help them be proactive, using their own intellect, wisdom and learning to reduce their dependence on others. ‘Adaptability’, they must be taught that ‘change’ cannot be prevented, i.e. cannot be resisted. COVID online classes have been a great teacher anyway, but they also need to learn to adapt when the parenting situation changes, as was the case with my pageant, which took a lot of attention and time.
ETimes: What are the things you think are out of date and that parents should stop pushing on their children?
priya: In my opinion, following the crowd is a sin. Every person is unique and has their own special characteristics. Parents should stop comparing their little ones to other children and pressuring them to perform well in the so-called “success definition the world has formulated”… Encourage their children to be unusually normal (not normal by definition of society).
ETimes: How do you teach your child gender neutrality?
priya: This is an extremely important topic and I am very natural and neutral when talking to my little one about different types of people. She was taught to treat them equally, she knows that we are all born equal and that there should be no discrimination no matter what.
ETimes: What did that one thing, winning the beauty pageant, teach you that helped you as a mom?
priya: The Mrs India Universe pageant, held over 8 days in Goa, involved more than 18 hours of tasks of various kinds, some of which were completely outside of my comfort zone, such as: B. Stand-up comedy. This has taught me to keep going no matter how difficult things get, an attitude of never giving up and being positive at all times is crucial and that same attitude will help me as a mother.
ETimes: Are grades important to a child? What would you say as a mother?
priya: Grades in assessments are just a tool to understand what our kids are good at and not so good at. I definitely try to help her in areas that aren’t her forte, but there’s no reason to force kids to excel in areas that might not interest them. My mantra to them is: “Do your best no matter what you are Don’t worry about the results.” I am a strong believer in the Bhagawad Gita: “Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma Phaleshu Kadachana”
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ETimes: Is social media relevant to children?
priya: Social media is relevant in today’s world and that’s the truth, whether we like it or not. I’m sure as time goes on we’ll just have more types of media, but what’s not relevant is the social pressure it creates. I talk to my child about how popular my certain posts are while not responding to others that I think are great. She was also taught that comments and opinions should not affect her in any way. While only humans get frustrated when people don’t respond responsibly on social media, she knows it shouldn’t affect her personality in any way. She was taught to be proud of herself as long as she knows she did her best and shouldn’t have social media pressure to outperform her peers. She’s also aware that thanks to artificial intelligence, not everything there is about the internet is a fact, she needs to realize what and how much she can take away from social media.
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